It is important to do this because it breaks down human self-delusion and isolation. It is important to do this because in doing so we do justice to our own complexity. It is important to do this because we can count on so few people to go that hard way with us.
from the essay Women and Honor: Some Notes on Lying
copied from Love's Learning Place: Truth as Aphrodisiac in women's long-term relationships by Renate Stendhal.