... The loss of human dignity at the hands of another can be forgiven, but it is rarely, if ever, forgotten.
... The key is to notice that if we stop beating ourselves up internally, the bullies i the world don't pick on us. The lesson of losing our dignity through being humiliated is learned when we show mercy towards ourselves (italics mine).
It took me a few minutes to understand what was meant by showing mercy to ourselves. The Christian side of my mind was making me anticipate "towards those who hurt us".